my own realizations about love... a reply to nadj14's REALIZATIONS ABOUT "LOVE" (PART 2)

this is my reply to the blog post of my friend.. if you're interested in her blog..feel free to read and comment about your own realizations about "love"

"some say that we're you're really in the state of "being in love," it is easier to love somebody than yourself. because in the long run, you will get to the point that you forget yourself just for the sake of the other.

we always think what's good for the other, without thinking if it's good for us.

we "give and give" without getting anything in return. we don't mind if we don't receive anything in return because we love the person."

-i totally agree in this statement... we women tend to give so much.. and we say that we don't mind if we receive nothing but mind me, WE DO MIND, unconsciously nga lng...

based on my experience kasi, i always say na i don't mind if i receive less but i know deep within me that i need more, and that I'm expecting him to give more... even though from the start I'm aware that he have difficulties in expressing his feelings.. and i know it's wrong for me to demand... that's why i get hurt easily...and

i even came to the point that i did forget about myself because i only think of his feelings, what is good for him, his happiness, i need to do this for him, i want to do this for him; i always prioritize him before anything else, i always consider him (his feelings, etc.) before i even make my personal decisions because all along i thought it is the right thing to do, i thought, what would make him happy would also make me happy, that what will make me happy would aslo make him happy, yes it does sometimes (i believe so), it did made us happy but the sad part of it is that the consequences of SOME of my actions were unjustifiable not only to me, to him, to the people around us but especially to my family.

we get hurt easily because unconsciously, we expect MORE from them,try to loosen up the tie,,, maybe sometimes they cannot stand the fact that we kept on nagging them.. let them know what you feel, what you need, try talk it over with him but DON'T DEMAND so much from them and DON'T GIVE too much. Learn how to compromise, to compensate, try to relax, take it easy, know your limitations and in that case you'll be able to give more time to yourself, to your family and especially to God. before that's what i do, i demand and expect so much from him but look at what happened to us.. but now it's clear to me.. I've learned my lessons, it's a slow process and a very difficult thing to do but i know it's worth the risk...

trust is also one factor that keeps the love burning...without trust, it's useless. why love the person when you cannot trust that person? TOUCHE! ako man lng tinamaan sa sinabi ko hehehe...

ang motor na di tulak..

laughtrip..meron palang motor na kailangan itulak muna before magstart... and take note, walang kick ung motor...hehehe
no offense sa mayari ng motor na hiniram ni Fr. Arnold ahh..hehehe
nawendang lang ako..nawala nga kalasingan ni fr. arn nang malaman namin na kailangan pala namin itulak yung motor para umandar ito....
pero kahit nawala na kalasingan ng kaibigan ko sa katutulak, ako prin ang ngdrive...
ayaw ko siyang mgdrive na lasing...
currently recovering plng siya from a serious motorcycle accident last sept.24(his second accident)... ung first last august lang siguro...
and ayaw ko ng maulit pa yun...
baka hindi na siya suwertehin...hmmmm
pero grabe.. i had a great time having dinner and drinks with my friends at molino grill...
busog na busog ako..hehehe...nasira diet ko...joke!
thanks to fr.chito for the treat... :)